Fairness - in the eye of the beholder?

Much is being said and written about the approaches by the two political parties in making their cases regarding the way forward in resolving the financial crisis facing our nation.  Both parties offer that this or that isn't fair, or this and that must be done to be fair.  Trouble is, there isn't agreement on how they define fair.

Is it fair to require more money of the average taxpayer, when he/she had little to no impact on the creation and perpetuation of this fiscal crisis?

Is it fair to increase taxes by default, when employees of the nation (AKA members of Congress and the President of the United States) failed in their duties?

Is it fair for each party to demonize another, in pursuit of political power while not resolving the financial crisis?

Is it fair to threaten to remove the deduction of mortgage interest, thereby threatening countless homeowners?

Is it fair for threats to end tax deductions for "the wealthiest Americans," who donate to the non-profits/charities that do so much good work for the disadvantaged, when it is this group of citizens who make the most substantial donations?

Is it fair for politicians to travel the country, attempting to drum up support for their views, rather than remain in Washington to work on them?

Is it fair to look towards changing the rules for the Senate, merely for political power?

Is it fair to shove the ACA down the throats of the country, when the members of Congress have their own "Cadillac" health plan?

Is it fair for the President to claim an electoral "mandate," when 49.5% of the electorate voted against him?

Is it fair for a school administrator to state, "In an attempt to be fair to everyone, we decided that we would just not put the Nativity scene out on campus,” when the Nativity scene had been displayed for decades?

If it fair for the elected officials to publicly employ hyperbole and threats in describing their opponents, rather than sitting down across the negotiating table?

Is it fair to threaten breaking the contract for free health care for life made with military retirees?

Is it fair for politicians to put their personal status ahead of what's good for the nation? 

In the end, I guess how one defines fair is in the eyes of the beholder.